Twinflame Soulmate Ties that bind
It’s been a while since I’ve taken time to just be and put my thoughts into words. It’s so much easier to just feel… but I do realize that putting experiences into words helps many of you out there struggling with similar experiences. I started writing a few years ago about a deep soul connection, the incredible connection, and how that connection can completely fill you up or utterly derail you. It’s the best and worst thing to ever happen to you. It brings out the best and worst in you. But it’s supposed to! You know that right? For the longest time I didn’t. I kept looking up and saying that it was a cruel joke. But over the years I’ve learned so much.
You can disconnect when you’re ready, but the connection will always be there. It doesn’t have to derail your life though.You just have to know your self worth and hold compassion. It’s not easy for the other person you are connected to. It may seem that way, but it’s not. You are a mirror to them. You shine light on their darkest fears. But it’s to help them to learn and grow, as you learn and grow when they shine the light on yours. You come to learn that even though you can’t be together at a given moment in time, it doesn’t always mean you’ll never be together or that there is any less love because you’re not. It just is the way it is. When you are ready and the other isn’t ready to be grounded enough to hold that love in a healthy way, they bolt. It’s not because they want to. They just cant handle the intensity of the emotion involved. They are not weak. They are just not in the same place that you are. They may get there one day… they may not. But it’s completely up to them. There is nothing you can do to “will it” to happen.
This is where the universe comes and separates you so that you can both continue to grow at whatever rate you are ready. Sometimes the distraction of these twinflame or soulmate connections can keep you stuck in place if you are not grounded enough to handle it’s fullness. And both must be grounded. Noone is immune to this type of relationship. Some beg the Angels for it. But I tell you… you really don’t know what you are pleading for. It may seem romantic and utterly incredible, and at times it is. But it’s more of a learning experience. These relationships will bring out the best I you, and the worst in you. Are you ready for the person that you are closest to, to see your deepest flaws? It’s not a bad thing. It’s life. When we are wide open, raw, vulnerable, and completely seen, that’s when the good stuff in life happens to us. Not many are ready to be seen that clearly by others, especially the one we love the most. But it truly is the only way you see yourself, feel yourself, and accept yourself. How can anyone accept you the way you are if you don’t? I don’t say this lightly. I’m still working on this. I admit I’m not completely there yet. But in order to find what makes me happy deep inside of me, I have to draw back the curtains, take off the clothes, forget the makeup and hair, and look in my own mirror. I’ve attempted most of this but I’m telling you… taking off the clothes and saying.. I just adore you (with a great big smile), well, I’m working on it. 🙂
Now think about this…. If it’s that hard for you, the one who ISN’T bolting. Can you imagine how horribly terrifying it is for your fleeing love? (Hence the fleeing). You have to decide if that is what you want. Can you live without this person? Do you want more for yourself? Are you willing to wait, knowing that he or she may never be able to get to a place where they can allow themselves to be happy? You are compassionate and understand the horror they’ve lived and why they are the way they are. And do they deserve someone as good and kind as you? Do they deserve not to be hurt anymore? Do they deserve understanding and someone who wont ever do to them that others have done? ABSOLUTELY! But if they won’t allow it, Do you wait? And as life slips you by, as time ages you, as decades pass, do you decide to be alone for the rest of your life? Or do you accept them where they are, love them, wish them all the happiness they can allow for themselves, and allow yourself to be loved again by another?
Can you let them be where they need to be in their healing, and love yourself enough to allow someone else to love you?
With tears, I wish you all the happiness you will allow for yourself.
Enjoy this beautiful Fall weather and keep everyone down South in your prayers,
Much love & Happiness to you,