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Clearing Karmic Bonds of Soul Love and Freeing Your Soul


Happy February Everyone!!

Are you enjoying this incredible New England winter? The temps have been short of amazing! πŸ™‚ If one could hike all winter… this would be the one to do it! I’m starting this post today because of events of last night into this morning. I’m not much into dream interpretation but this was very clearcut and it’s meaning, well it directly relates to all that happened at the start of the evening and what further ensued. I realize Valentines day is coming soon and this post is very deep. It’s for those who have ever been tied to another person in ways most cannot begin to understand but with a connection so strong that you believe with your whole heart and every fiber of your being that no matter how it’s unfolding, it’s meant to be. This post will explain this kind of connection and why this is not always the case.

I will start with a class I attended that involved cutting Karmic bonds and clearing our Karma, freeing us to move forward and continue on our path. There are many kinds of karmic bonds but the one I’m referring to in this post deals with matters of the heart. It was an amazing class (check out for more info). We started with a meditation to get us ready to release, then listed all we wanted to clear, all we wanted to be free of connected to our past and associated struggles. We then went into a visual meditation where we visualized these ties/bonds connected to us, and then Archangel Michael came in with his flaming blue sword of love to cut these ties and put them into the Violet flame for transmutation. Then Jesus came in to replace what was taken with beautiful white light, like bandaids, where each and every cord or attachment was removed. We were filled with his light, and then fill ourselves with the violet flame with us stretching it out into our aura as far as we could.

It was an incredible cleansing and we all felt lighter when we finished. Our teacher (Elizabeth Foley) checked with a pendulum to be sure we were clear. I was soooo ready!! I had been struggling with the intense bond of a soul love from many past lives and needing to let go. It was the full moon which is perfect energy for letting go, and this class. She went through each and every one of us… yes! yes! yes! and then me… No! I was like.. “C’mon!!!” Letting out a huge sigh. I said, “What more do I have to do?” I was very frustrated. I had been working on this for almost 2 years. “E” checked and said it was my romantic life. Then asked his name, which I gave. She said, yes its him. I was so disheartened.

Some of the girls gave me input on what they felt. That there were feelings still. And so I asked, “Do I need to hate this man to be clear?” Because I dont hate anyone. They said no. It just needs more time. They said it felt like there were unresolved issues, like uncertainty because of lack of closure. This is true. And as much as I can choose to be done. There are always questions.

I’ve never gone into much detail on this in previous posts but I will try to clarify here so there is a bit more understanding. And I know many of you will understand this connection. I met this man almost 4 years ago. We connected instantly. It was like we’d known each forever. This is because we’ve spent many lifetimes together. It is why we have a very comfortable yet passionate bond (And we are both Scorpio’s taboot!). But it’s never had boundaries. and that felt fine. When you meet a soul love like this in your lifetime, if it’s beautiful and everything flows.. you run with it because it’s rare. But when it starts off beautiful and then starts to get “wonky” (for lack of a better word), and it is alot of work. You start giving so much more than you are recieving because this person is not in a place where they can give in the same way, but at the same time will not let go, but they stay at a distance and keep checking in to be sure you are still there… this is not what is meant to be. If it’s not flowing and joyous, it’s time to let it go because it’s not meant to be at this moment and maybe not in this lifetime. The term soulmate is not always meant for a love connection, or a lifetime connection. When it is you can’t mistake it. But when it isn’t, you know deep in your heart because you are always in a search for understanding. Timing is the key here. Diving timing.

When we get caught up in this connection because it’s so strong (and I know many of you who have), do not convince yourself it’s meant to be because of how strong it is. I did this. But then I learned that it’s only strong because you have been together in so many lives before. If it’s not flowing beautifully, you need to let it go. It took me a couple of years to understand this.

We plan our lives before we come here.. the lessons we will learn, the friends from our soul family that will help us learn the lessons we want to learn, and the loves we will have or not have. We know all of this. Even if it’s the loss of a child or the loss of a great love. It can be severe abuse as well. It took me a very long time to comprehend this. But when reading “The Journey Home” it all started to make sense. And when we can recognize that the people in our lives, no matter what we have been through with them, are there to fulfill a contract that we set up before we ever got here, then we begin an understanding that will help you move forward and see everyone who enters your life in a totally different way.

Every struggle helps us get stronger. No matter what that struggle is, if we live through it, we are able to use that pain (challenge) to help another. I have lived through so much in my life, much of which many dont know about, but it has helped me connect with the people who seek me out with the same challenges, and I can walk them through it. When we can heal from these challenges, we become stronger and will inevidably help another at some point. Maybe another who may not be as strong, and in doing so we get even stronger. Reliving our pain to help another walk through theirs is the greatest gift we can give another.

In all I went through in this soul relationship, I endured incredible pain, and would never wish it on anyone. There was no cheating. No deception. It was not being able to reach and heal this one soul through his pain. It was the silence and distance that ensued because he wasn’t ready. And it was in learning that we cannot help someone who isn’t ready for it. And even when they are, they have to do the work themselves. We can support, but we can’t do it for them. He asked me once… “aren’t you afraid of what you will feel and dig up by trying to heal yourself?” And I said, “Im not afraid. Nothing can hurt me anymore, and if we dont face it head on it holds us back. Even if something did come up from a memory I had buried, I would face it. I will not hide anymore. That would only make that hold stronger and give it power.” Oh hell no!

He wasn’t ready to face what was his biggest challenge. What he endured was so much deeper. I understood. I understood why he saw life the way he did, why he made the decisions he made, why he accepted so much less for himself, and why he would choose an abusive co-dependent relationship over one that would treat him like gold. I understood. But it didn’t matter because he did not feel worthy of anything good in his life. And I couldn’t do anything about it. He told me once… if you hang around me long enough you will start to doubt the existence of God. I told him, “there is nothing you could say or do that would ever touch my belief. It just is”. Though, I think over our time together I touched his belief.

He often asked me to heal him, to send healing. And I would. He would text me in the middle telling me he could feel me. That was how our connection was. We could feel each other. Our thoughts passed through to each other without words.

I describe all of this so you understand the depth of our connection. There is so much more but I think you get the gist. After months of silence and more heartache than anyone should allow themselves to endure, I decided that it was time to free us both. And even that took many tries. But last night I was ready. I had already deleted all pictures, all internet connections, everything. With each release there were many tears. But the book “The Journey Home” helped me to see what our connection was in this lifetime. I had to accept that thats all it was meant to be. He was the reason I opened up to all that I had inside. He was the reason I started down this path of healing. And I am forever grateful to him for these things and the lessons that made me stronger in who I am. I learned it’s ok to be alone. It’s ok to love fully. But what I also learned was that we should never over compensate, or put more energy into another person than we do into ourselves or love another more than we love ourselves, especially if it’s not balanced and being returned. It’s easy to give and give without recieving. But it’s not healthy. And eventually it creates a lack of respect.

He did not believe in God. God is why I do the work I do. But yet because of his pain, I opened up to healing. He never prompted me in any way. But it happened because this is where I’m supposed to be. Not for this one person, but for the world. How can I not be grateful for that? So last night I set my intention to set us both free. And when in class this did not happen AGAIN, I was very frustrated. I drove home and thought of nothing else. I got home, got out of my car, looked up at the moon with tears in my eyes and my heart open so completely and said… “PLEASE clear my soul of our karmic connection and all ties that bind us. Im ready to move on. I want to move on. Please help me.” And then I went inside.

I went to bed and almost immediately fell asleep. I awoke this morning to the most horrific dream. Or at least thats what I felt in the dream. In this dream I had a new client coming to my house for a healing session. he showed up with another man (his friend). I dont usually have male clients so this was new for me. But I went to get changed while they waited in my home. (Clients normally come in my healing studio door downstairs not through my home anymore and I’m always ready). I put on a bathing suit and was ready. (ha ha yeah I know this through me off too.. lol but precognitive preparation maybe?) I went downstairs to my healing room and it was literally raining in the room. I said, “no no no no no OMG no”, then went out into the rest of my healing studio and it was raining everywhere. I was in sheer panic. My fear though was that I couldn’t afford to fix all the damage it was causing.

My client came downstairs and he started trying to figure out the problem. Shortly after this we went into the attic and it was bone dry up there. I was thinking… there is nothing coming through the roof. It’s pouring and there is nothing coming through the roof. Where is this water coming from? Then I thought.. OMG its a broken pipe. So from here I went into another basement (I dont have 2 but in this dream it was like the basement of the basement) with my clients friend and there was water everywhere but not raining water. I was looking around and walking was fine, but then noticed there were two boxes, one of wood and one of coal, and they were about to catch fire because they were too close to a heat source. I have no idea what this heat source was but it was there. Almost like a blob. I moved both boxes away from the heat so they wouldn’t go up in flames. Then checked on another part of the basement and as I crouched down my foot started to go through the floor. I panicked again and all of a sudden the whole floor was rotting and was going to snap where ever I walked. I got out of there with my clients friend without falling through.

We went back upstairs to my home and noticed the house being built next door (in the dream, it’s not happening here) had a bunch of firefighters and police officers putting a tarp over the roof area to keep the SNOW out. Outside we had about a foot of snow! Where the snow came from I have no idea. But I went out and started to tell two women what had happened downstairs in my house.. not knowing what I was going to do… then I woke up.

I woke up remembering everything! That never happens so I knew this had great meaning and I wasn’t exactly sure what it was but I had a feeling. So I called a friend and we discussed it. She had the same feeling I did. The rain was a cleansing. The second basement and the fire was like the passion and I moved the fuel away from the fire which will now eventually allow the “fire” to burn out. And the floor signified the bottom falling out from under me which in the past is exactly what it would have felt like to even try to disconnect from this soul love. My friends know… It was not a pretty sight and I felt I had no control. But I healed the despair connected to this man, which stopped those reactions. And by getting out of the basement, without falling through, I had conquered this situation. I had not fallen apart. I had not lost myself. And with all the rain clearing my entire healing area and myself… I was cleansed.. and I am free!

For those of you struggling with releasing a soul connection. Ask yourself… Is it flowing freely? Is it happy and without pain? Is your partner emotionally and physically free to love you? Do you recieve as much as you give? or Are you ever left wondering about your relationship? Can they answer emotional questions or do they leave you in silence, “forget” to answer the text, or just not answer and wait it out till it’s “forgotten”? Are they in it 100% (and you KNOW if they are) or are you left totally confused? Their actions speak volumes. Are they speaking or hiding? Just because they wont let go and always check in to make sure you are there, does not mean it’s working. Just the opposite. And that is not love. As special as that may make you feel at times. Checking in is not being present. You deserve someone who is present and participating as much with you as you are with them.

I am free now. But this is not over. I will be tested. And I will pass with flying colors! Because I know what I want and its so much more than I ever realized I could have. <3 Know you deserve the very best and that it’s yours if you allow it.

Happy Valentines Day for YOU <3

With Much Love and So Many Heartfelt Hugs,



  • Patty Gardner Posted February 8, 2012 8:47 pm

    Sally, I guess this is my sign not to backtrack! Beautiful story and such wisdom. Thank you! I have been feeling the same and now understand why. <3

    • Sally Bowers Posted February 9, 2012 11:06 pm

      Patty Im so happy it helped πŸ™‚ Take care of YOU and the rest will fall in line πŸ™‚

  • Vohnnye Kaye Posted February 8, 2012 11:09 pm

    Thank you for sharing!

    I too met a mam four years ago on January 1, 2008. I called him my Divine Complement. I was convinced that we would be together for the rest of this lifetime as we had such a deep love so many times before. It ended a few years later because he found a new love totally unexpected. Looking back I can now see his womanizing traits, but could never really see them at the time I was with him. I have let him go even though I will always love him and still communicate with his oversoul or higher self periodically.

    I am now exploring the healing of a relationship with someone else from the past. We have been in each others lives in one way or the other for 19 years. I felt in the past he was emotionally incapable of giving and receiving in love, but I was so persistent in my attempt’s to continue to MAKE it happen. If only I would get better and better and do everything better and better, he would surely love me! We know that old program!

    Well, this time around, much to my ego’s dismay, I am here again, looking at everything from new eyes and new thinking. I have been drawn back by my higher self or my soul self. My ego does not like it one little bit. However, my ego has decided, not without periodic resistance, to follow my soul’s lead. I have not committed to jumping back in fully, nor are we intimate yet. I have committed to allowing my soul to be in charge I have committed to simply watching my ego when it is having a temper tantrum about how things should be or what I deserve or why I am settling. I do not know how, why or where. I only know that, at this time in my awakening(2012), I am only capable of allowing my Soul to lead the way. Where it leads me will be far beyond my wildest dreams and highest imaginings.
    Blessings in Heartlink, Vohnnye

    • Sally Bowers Posted February 9, 2012 11:04 pm

      Vohnnye, I have a great book for you….. two actually. The first is “The Journey Home by Lee Carroll” You will discover more about yourself than you ever understood before. I had lightbulbs going off everywhere! It’s a fast read but very profound! It will change howyou see the people in your life. THe second and maybe more important at the moment… is “Why men love bitches”. It’s not about being a bitch.. it’s about self empowerment and why it’s attractive. It is one of the best books I’ve ever read! It will help you on so many levels.

      Thank you for sharing your story with me. It’s not easy but I know you can get through it. Following your higher self is a huge step!

      Many blessings to you!

  • Sandi Posted February 9, 2012 11:21 am

    It must have taken so much courage and determination to put this all to paper.
    Thank you …..
    I wonder if this is true of the connections we have with our friends ( who wander off to leave us holding the remnants of a longtime friendship) and our children ( when a child decides to quit communicating, so nothing can be helped or healed).

    • Sally Bowers Posted February 9, 2012 11:00 pm

      The people in our lives are all part of why we are here and the lessons we wanted to learn. I believe it all can be healed but you have to start with your own heart. When you heal yourself, it automatically heals those around you on many levels. Healing ourselves is a lesson in itself. We are important!! YOU are important Sandi! <3

    • Sally Bowers Posted April 6, 2012 8:37 pm

      Sans…. I believe it’s true of all soul connections. Each is different and has it’s own journey, but I think it all comes back around when the timing is right and if the work we do for ourselves, on ourselves, to heal, brings us to that place. Have faith… Miracles abound πŸ™‚

      Angel Blessings,

  • Sally Bowers Posted February 9, 2012 10:57 pm

    Thank you all for the beautiful private and public messages <3 I love hearing from you and Im so very happy this post has helped you.

    Bless you!!

  • Kim Posted February 13, 2012 1:21 am

    What a terrific gave me some insight on our karmic connections to others and clearing the karma to free ourselves. Just as you describe, the karmic pull can make us very irrational at times and a feeling of connectedness with someone we cannot explain on a human level. Sending you healing and angel love.

    • Sally Bowers Posted February 18, 2012 9:52 pm

      Thank you Kim <3 Im glad you connected with the blog post. It's been reaching alot of people that have gone through or are going through the same situation. It's not easy but it is possible to get through it. There was a time when I wasn't so sure. but it just takes healing and alot of self care.

      Angel blessings,

  • Hugh Posted March 4, 2012 8:01 pm

    Thank you Sally for your open and generous sharing.

    I hope deeply that we men of the world will soon open up in larger numbers to allowing ourselves to feel more comfortable in our vulnerability.

    A real man is in his powerful healthy male energy and balancing it with his feminine qualities of awareness, compassion, love etc.

    There is much hope for a brighter future on this beautiful planet.

    In The One Light,

    • Sally Bowers Posted April 6, 2012 8:35 pm

      Hi Hugh, Your words are very heartfelt and I agree with you. But each has his or her own journey and it’s the work we do that really makes for the life we will have. If we do the work, learn the lessons, there is such beauty that awaits us on every level. If not… then maybe another lifetime. Me? I choose to figure this all out now. πŸ™‚

      Here’s to all the hope that our lights can shine <3
      Angel Blessings,

  • Marian Jones Posted March 17, 2012 10:02 am

    Hello Sally,

    I just came on to look at some messages and somehow found you and this blog. Well I know the Universe sends us to the right places at the right time and has certainly led me here this morning. I have had the soul connection which have struggled with and now finally cut off physical connection but need to release the ties. I found your advice to be just what I need. Thank you so much for sharing this.

    Bless you

    • Sally Bowers Posted April 6, 2012 8:32 pm

      Marian, this is happening so much more than we all realize. It’s all about the lessons we need to learn. And while these connections could be beautiful.. if both are not in the same energetic place, it cant work. Realizing this is the hardest part, next to letting go. I wish you so much happiness and strength on your journey!!

      Angel BLessings to you!

      • Marisel Vazquez Posted October 11, 2012 3:38 am

        Hello Sally,
        My name is marisel and I’ve just read your post and I’m shockingly suprised at how identical our situations are. However I’m just now figuring out that this deep love connection I once had with this person has come to an official end a month ago. It’s so hard to take all this in. It’s over, (snapping the finger) just like that! And lately I’ve had this urge to go see a clairvoyant or spiritual advisor to help understand what it is I’ve gone through in the year we’ve been together. This is the fifth advisor I seen in the last 2 years and they’ve all told me the same thing. That this man was my soulmate! Before I met him I was told by them that he was coming soon into my life. Well long story short…this amazing connection we had endured was to the point where I moved my entire life from one state to his and brought my son to pursue a future together and once I stepped foot here on his territory (santa barbara,ca) he completey changed. He says how he can’t take care of us(my son and I) that he’s not ready, he wants to work on himself, or he needs to be alone….all this rift raft and he leaves me in the dust with my 7 yr old son. It hurts me so much to know that I gave my all, I used all my energy, I put others first, I loved unconditionally and still my heart gets broken. Now I’m in the process of spiritual and karmic healing. Ive learned we’ve had a past life together, maybe several, and in that past life I cheated on him. I hurt him so much to the point that in this life he’s carrying on this hurt and is now hurting me. He may not even know why he’s doing it he just is. Now the process does take several days maybe even weeks to work on but I’ve been getting cleansed and reiki treatments to clear this blockage from my root chakra. I see such a difference! I’m open to anything and I’m willing to go through what I have to to understand why this is happening. But I guess the $1,000,000 questions are: how do I release this burden or bad karmic that was in my past life? How do I mend what’s been shattered? And we’ll we ever be together again in this life or is it someone else who takes his place?

        • Sally Bowers Posted October 13, 2012 8:01 pm

          Hi Marisel, Im so sorry for what you are going through. Its one of the hardest lessons we can ever learn. He may not be ready, he may be scared, he may have regret later, but you are doing exactly what you need to be doing. Choosing you! If something is meant to be, it will be. If it’s not, it never will be. All we can do is continue to grow within, listen to our own inner guidance, choose what is best for our lives, our souls, and trust that the love that is meant to come into our lives will when we are in a place to allow it. You are not there yet. His choices and actions are based in fear and you cannot control this. He is the only one who can move out of this energy and change what is within his life and himself. You are the only one who can do the same for you. Having experienced that kind of connection and love makes it more challenging to release, but releasing is the only way for each of you to grow to where you need to be. Whether you will ever be together again will depend on if you both do your work and if it’s what is best for both of you. Right now, it’s not. But I am a firm believer that anything is possible. Having said that though, no matter what kind of connection we have with another, if it is not working, and you are banging your head against a wall to make it work, it’s time to walk away and choose what is best for you. I realize that this takes time sometimes for one to get to that point, but having gone through it, I wish for anyone else going through the same thing to choose themselves sooner rather than later. When you go to bed tonight, ask Jesus to clear your karmic debt to this man and all of your past lives. Ask to be released of any Rifts in time and that you accept responsibility for what took place and ask for forgiveness, as you forgive yourself. Ask for all past and present karmic bonds and traumas be released and healed. You may need to do this several times, but you will need to open your heart and be willing to let go completely while trusting that God has an ultimate plan for you both. Whether its together or not only time will tell. You both have much healing to go through and inner growth to achieve. You may do yours and he may or may not do his. Timing is everything. But one thing I have come to realize is that if one is doing their work and the other is stuck… a union will not take place. You must be in the same vibration for it to work. Keeping this in mind…. if you are twin flames, the work you do on yourself helps him energetically. ANd vise versa. But the same goes for if you spiral and let go of living life and allow yourself to suffer… this energy will also effect him. If you want to heal and also want him to reach his full potential, the best you can do is to heal yourself completely and keep moving forward. I never thought this was possible for myself. It took many years to finally learn who I am and my own self worth. But it was the silence between us and the separation that made this possible. I can only wish that he has been able to grow as well. And from the way he contacts me and his words now… I can see and feel growth within him. But he is still not here. So I keep going forward, learning, growing, releasing, and shedding tears now and then. But it’s not as painful now as it once was. You will get to a place of peace within yourself when you keep choosing what is best for you. And one day the reason for why this happened will reveal itself. It is not a cruel joke, as much as it may feel that way right now. There is a reason, and it’s not to punish you. A balance of karma may be part of it, but not all of it. find the blessing in this and you will find your answer.

          Angel Blessings to you…

  • maya Posted February 12, 2013 7:36 pm

    Hi Sally,
    I just came across your post. I am 30 and am facing a similar situation to this. I was seeing a guy at university who was 4 yrs younger than me I met him while I was studying for my postgrad and he was doing his undergrad. He is extremely different and I did not realize it then but I think he suffers from a mild form of aspergers.. coz he literally does not understand ’emotions’ or emotional connotations yet at the same time he is very smart and well read but his emotional side comes out more towards groups like a charity etc. We have had our share of break ups and make ups and though I have had long term relationships before and have always been friends with my ex’s this one is just too difficult to let go of.. we live in different countries and though we both are not seeing anyone at the moment I know he has met alot of women who he is open to get to knowing… at the same time I am the only one he shares everything with till today… and to be honest I am his best friend… however having said that he is the kind of person who can go without sharing or talking to anyone for months… while I cant! We just met recently at a wedding and when we did I realized I still had feelings for him… I dont know no how to move on… I feel I am back to square one it took me so long to get my life on track and then he comes along and I feel like a bit of an emotional mess again! I have had quite a rough time getting things on track… and its funny coz I feel we have both always helped each other grow… the only difference is I know it but he does not! He has difficulty expressing his emotions… and I dont! I have never cut out anyone in my life… and I have not gone to a hypnotherapist to understand this karmic bond but I would definitely want to! I met him at a wedding in my country after 2 years and now he is leaving to go back to the UK in a few days and I just feel so low… I dont want him to go!! at the same time I know this is not right … I really need some help in this matter!! I would also like to mention here.. that I have some other problems at home, which include financial issues as well as an alcoholic and depressed father. However this has never come between us… this is a separate issue…but just thought I would share it with you… I have tried meeting other men and getting to know them but the only person I feel safe and secure with is my ex. I truly feel his soul!!! How does one heal themselves and let go??

    • Sally Bowers Posted March 6, 2013 4:17 pm

      Dear Maya, It is now 5 years for me and I’ve come to learn that we are not meant to be here in the physical unless it is our last lifetime here. If it’s not working, and in most cases it’s very much uneven (one with major issues and stuck, while the other is ready and growing). This is the case with almost every flame story I’ve read. If it’s working.. it’s heaven on earth and goes the distance. But if its not working… it must be let go. No matter how much you may want it to work, it just doesn’t. It doesn’t mean you dont love one another or have that incredible bond which makes this the hardest of all relationships to let go, it just means its not meant to be here in the physical. He had to have come into your life for a reason… to push you forward or put you on your path, but thats all it was meant to be or it would be working.

      This is the hardest part and the hardest lesson I’ve ever had to learn and that any of the flame relationships have had to learn. THe bond you feel is past life connection. You will connect on the other side when you sleep and after you pass and go home. But for this life, acceptance is the key. I cant tell you it’s easy. I have thoughts to this day and wonder but I have to remove them from my mind as soon as they enter or I will make myself crazy. Heal yourself. Heal your heart and mind. Time will help but time will never remove the bond. That is something you have to block yourself. Ask Archangel Michael and Jesus to help you create a loving wall to keep out his energy. Yours from him and his from yours. cut that cord as often as you need to. It will get better.

      As hard as it is… break all communication. Women who have gone through this cannot be just friends. It’s too painful. Maybe in time after you have been able to move on, but to get through it and passed it, you must focus on yourself and healing. Communication will set you back each and every time. Even when he comes talking about memories and how you are the only one he feels normal with… this will give you hope and then you start all over with the pain and getting passed it. It’s easy to talk to someone you feel comfortable with and know how you feel. But when they know how you feel about them and still talk like this, giving hope that it may work.. that is not fair. Because what is in your mind isn’t necessarily in theirs. But yet you will still have hope once again. It’s a cycle and eventually you see that they are not in a place to be with you.

      You will do what you need to do and go through this however you need to. What I share is simply many similar experiences. Sometimes we just have to learn the lesson in our own way. I listened to noone… hence it taking me 5 years to get through, and Im not completely done. I know another text will come. And I know I cannot answer.

      When you do finally let go though….. really let go… you will open the door to someone even better for you. πŸ™‚ And you WILL have that kind of connection again. For now… try to find acceptance in what is. And believeeeeee <3

      My best to you Maya,
      Angel Blessings,

  • Caitlin Posted March 12, 2013 4:39 am

    I actually just went through all this myself. I met this guy 4 years ago and after a few tries was just finally able to cut the cords about a month ago. I feel like an entirely new person, so much lighter. It’s almost as if I needed to go through this specific relationship so that I could learn and be exposed to the right things so that I can now move on to bigger and better things with my life. It opened so many doors, I am thankful for everything that happened (I never thought I’d say that). An old friend has come back into my life as well as someone new. I went to see a reader the other day and she told me that I have a karmic connection with one of them, but none with the other. I was wondering about this, is one better than the other (for lack of a better word)?

    • Sally Bowers Posted March 13, 2013 3:11 pm

      Hi Caitlin,

      A karmic connection just means you have “Stuff” to finish. But after you have had a soul connection, it’s hard to go into a relationship without one. A karmic connection doesn’t mean it will work or that it won’t. Follow your heart and you will know whats right for you. You’ve already been down the hardest road….. I agree with you about needing to have gone through that relationship in order to see bigger and better for yourself. πŸ™‚ When I wrote that blog post I had no idea that I was not done…. but I’ve finally reached that point. It’s 5 years now but Im ready πŸ™‚

      Take care!!
      Angel Blessings,
      Sally πŸ™‚

  • johanna Posted April 21, 2013 4:36 pm

    Sally, your story is so similar to mine. And I’ve been in agony wondering what the purpose of him being in life was. We met five years ago and instantly meshed. It was such a profound experience and over a year later I had to let him go. I thought I had untangled myself from him but two years later he was back and here I am, again, finding I have to release him. It was awful the first time. This second time is agony and it seems so cruel of the Universe to make me give him up again. I found your blog when I was searching for ways to sever our bonds and you have given me a greater sense of peace with your insight. I have had such a deep sense of shame, feeling that I was not enough for him to choose me. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

    • Sally Bowers Posted May 8, 2013 7:38 pm

      Johanna, it was never about you or your worth. It’s about him and his own fear of not being enough or just fear of the limitless possibilities of what could be. Either way, it’s not you!! But I so understand your feeling this way. It took me years and going deep within myself to realize this. YOU ARE ENOUGH!!! You are more than enough. He’s just not in a place to allow himself to participate and be present the way you are. You deserve someone who is. His growth does not match your own and this is why it doesn’t work. Cutting all ties is the hardest challenge one can go through in this type of connection. But when you do, you are truly free.

      Take care,
      Angel Blessings,

      • Natalie Posted September 23, 2013 3:10 am

        Hi Sally

        All I can say is a huge thank you for helping me understand & finally feel some peace in my heart.

        Best wishes

        • Sally Bowers Posted September 30, 2013 3:46 pm

          You’re very welcome Natalie πŸ™‚

  • Romi Posted June 1, 2013 9:16 am

    Hi Sally,
    I am a man of 46 years,married 3 kids and few months ago i discover that i am in a karmic conecttion .From 3 years ago i have flirting with our secretary from work.We work face to face,she looking at me in a diffrent way just from 3 years.I thougth she likes me and i begun to send email about my feelings,she nerver respond on them./just few months ago she said that is a karmic attraction ,and some dbt to pay.Ok i understand that now.But i didn’t know nothing about karma until she wrote me.Now i reading and reading again to find some answers.
    I reply to her mail,and i said its ok ,i will pray for forgive one another and for our debts to be removed from us.But she still looked at me,and fix me with hers eyes and i don’t know what to do,cause when i’m near her i lose all words and my emotions grows huge and i’m feel blocked.Could be my soul mate? Or my twin flame?
    Or why ‘m going through this?I want to love her unconditionally and forget her ,but i can’t!She avoid me and in matter of work problem!Why?She is unmarried woman on her 35,I heard she had some cancer few years ago,and i feel so compassion for her I wish to do mare for her,but she don’t let me!Why?I can’t forget her cause i see her evry day.I should move from work place?We work together from 12 yers ,and only 3 years ago,she begun to fix me with her eyes!Is better to not commuicate to be distance one from another?If .yes ,how karma will be erase?Can you give some advices?
    Thanks a lot!
    Here’s to all the hope that our lights can shine <3
    God and Angel Blessings,


    • Sally Bowers Posted August 20, 2013 10:19 pm

      You may not have been able to walk away in another life… so the karma carries through. What you’re feeling is a soul connection, but I dont feel it’s soulmate or twinflame. She is doing her part in keeping distance. Can you? You will find deeper clarity with distance. Noone can tell you what to do. And the Angels certainly wont. This is your work to go through and heal. I highly recommend sitting in silence and listening to your inner voice. The Angels will guide you, you just need to pay attention to the signs. Ask the Angels to come to you in your dreams to give you guidance in a way that you can remember it. (Usually right before you wake up). I do have to say though… Ive never seen guidance given that has someone leave their partner unless there is abuse involved or the partner is with another themselves. And even then it’s not telling what to do, it’s showing what is and giving options.

      Jesus is the Master that can clear karma. Talk to him before bed and ask him to clear yours completely. it may take several weeks, but Jesus listens. πŸ™‚

      Angel blessings to you,

  • James Posted June 5, 2013 9:52 pm

    Ok… so I’m not a believer of this stuff. Or at least I hadn’t been. Now I’m not so sure.

    I met her just a week ago. And it was like instant heat, instant passion. Unlike me, she DID believe in all this… and she declared at one point she believed I was a “walk in,” her dead husband having walked into my body (and yes, I know what it is).

    I had my doubts, but my attraction to this woman was overwhelming. I’ve always been cautious and slow about giving over my heart, and I would have taken my time….

    But not with her. In a matter of a few days, I also found some startling coincidences that kept popping up… one in particular so astounding I had trouble rationalizing it.

    There was just one problem… her fiancee.

    So, after the “astounding coincidence,” I called an angel channeler she was close to and explained the situation. The channeler told me that I wasn’t a walk-in, but that her husband liked me, the three of us probably shared circling past lives together many times, and he thought I would make a better mate for her than the man she was currently with.

    A man she was with because he was the only one willing to help her when her husband passed away.

    And that SHE should take time to consider the link between us and think carefully about her decision… (the two of them spoke after the channeler and I did)

    That was yesterday. Didn’t take her long at all. She called me today, and said she had absolutely no plans about jeapordizing the life she had built, and that she was grateful she now has perspective, and what was between her and I was just business… the expressions of love she had given me before still held true, and she could visit me during “business hours” but that it was just business between us now.

    Although she still wants to be friends.

    I don’t think she realizes…. I have never been one to take leaps of faith. I’ve always been a man of science. In just one week, I was so enthralled by her I was willing to devote myself to studying all this… I just wanted her in my life….

    Her selection of this other man was bad enough. It cut me deep in the heart. But then referring to us as just business?

    I’m in agony.

    The channeler said she thought the two of us had been working on some kind of unresolved issues of some kind, she wasn’t sure what. I don’t care. I still have trouble believing all of this, but if this has been a recurring case in past lives between us, then I just want it done.

    I feel like an utter fool, I’m in agony, and apparently I’m just business. Well, I think I’d like to end that business and cut the ties between her and I once and for all. I’m willing to take this leap of faith one more time, just long enough to end it for good.

    I’m not going to have the only woman I have ever fell for so hard, so fast, make me into her business.

    • Sally Bowers Posted August 20, 2013 10:07 pm

      Wow James! I have to admit… the way she worded things was kinda cold. She is stuck ina place that you cant help her out of. Only she can do that. But when people hold onto security over love, its pretty tough to get them out of that. They need to want to. But you also have to consider that she may like the life she’s built and you filled a void she had. It was more for you. Im sorry for that as I know that kind of pain. Noone deserves that. If it was more for her, she will feel it deeply when you are gone. But considering the circumstances… if they are still the same as I write this, you need to find a way to let go. For you though… If you look at one positive aspect… your interaction with her showed you that you could be vulnerable and love in a way that you may have never thought possible. Keep in mind that every relationship is preparation for the one who WILL stay and WILL go the distance. Dont shut your heart down. Just see things for what they are and stay open to other possibilities. πŸ™‚ There is more for you….

      Angel Blessings,

  • James Posted June 5, 2013 9:57 pm

    and in reference to above, does this stop or prevent recurrences of this relationship with future lives? As in, not repeating the same thing again?

    I know, I’m ignorant, but I am curious.

    • Sally Bowers Posted August 20, 2013 9:58 pm

      You will keep being given lessons until you master them. Not always in the same way or with the same person. Heal yourself now and watch the beauty that unfolds for you πŸ™‚ In this life or the next. If you heal now…. you wont have to wait πŸ™‚

      Angel Blessings,

  • Sun shine Posted June 22, 2013 9:19 am

    Hello, Sally I hope all is well with you & for you. Your story and many others I have something’s in commun with right now in this very relationship that I am in right now!! Omg, help me it is hard but I want and need to feel good about myself again its like the only thing that I want now more then I want him but how do I tell him that and not hurt him because its been four years now and it seems that the longer i stay the more I hurt. Within the first year he asked me to Marrie him and I said, yes! Without a ring on my finger now it’s three years later and their is no ring or marriage but he aways say when he becomes rich &framus he’ll be able to do and give me the world when all I want is him. Please forgive me if I’m not painting a better picture here for you to be able to help me but all I can say is from day one with this man I felt like I was looking in a mirror and he could speak what I was feeling or thinking and finish my sentences as we both love to communicat for hours, days on in however, he’s been hurt in the pass and so have I and yes, from time to time we both have nearly drove each other crazy. Sally we have broken up so many times that I ran out of fingers & toe’s to count lol……we are both artistes he’s into music and myself i love to paint and creat but for about a year now I haven’t been able to really get the things that I have created out there in the world because I haven’t been feeling like my best me. Oh and one more thing when we had a brake up it didn’t last more then three days I really Feel stuck sometimes I feel like running away without telling him & at the same time I know I’ll miss him inside like crazy. We’ve been together almost everyday from the time that we met each other I’m just feeling so sick to my stomach on really letting go but I also want to stop crying all of the time. I am so embarrassed.

    • Sally Bowers Posted August 20, 2013 9:56 pm

      Sunshine, its time for you to shine again. Be honest with him and take time for yourselves. It doesn’t mean its over, it just means you both will take tie to heal yourselves. If your are meant to come back together, you will. If not, you will be guided down another path. Im not speaking of another relationship here. Just another path for your life. You can choose to stay or you can choose to find what makes you happy. With time apart (completely), you will find clarity. You will find your answers. You both will.

      I used to think if my soul guy and I could have just been given a chance it would have worked…. but when I read these stories I realize that it wouldn’t have. Time apart is what we both needed to grow and become who we are inside. To find our own happiness inside ourselves. Noone else can give us that. And until you have that, relationships will always be a struggle. Find your own happiness, let him find his, and then just maybe you will find your way back to each other or something even better than you could ever imagine. πŸ™‚

      I know you can do it!
      Angel Blessings,

  • Corinna Posted July 1, 2013 6:08 am

    Reading this; was like reading my own story. For me it has been 20 years. Every time I think I have been successful, I am later tested and fail miserably and suddenly another year of my life is claimed. Thank you for sharing and for the others who have shared their stories also, it is nice to know I’m not alone in this dilemma. I look forward to feeling that freedom. πŸ™‚

    • Sally Bowers Posted August 20, 2013 9:48 pm

      You will get there Corinna πŸ™‚ For you its time for inner healing and a focus on yourself for a while. Let the rest go for now. You will be surprised at the peace and clarity that comes with silence πŸ™‚

      Angel Blessings to you,

  • Leann Posted July 2, 2013 5:16 pm

    I really needed to read this today. I met that soul connection at an event in California and I’m from Canada. I saw her and the world stopped. I never felt that before and I thought it was just a crush. I didn’t go to her and we didn’t talk… Call it fate, when I got back home I started randomly talking to this girl from Australia who contacted me on the event’s message board and I let her know of my crush and she knew her and our us in touch. The woman was married with kids and lived 10 hrs (by car) from me. We talked a bit but I let it go because it wasn’t right… Having gotten closer with the Australian girl and wanting to meet I convinced her we should go back to the same event the next year but for months she couldn’t afford it and said she couldn’t go and I said I’m not going if you’re not. It’s only 10 days before the event that she mysteriously found the money to go… The crush and I hadn’t been talking but was on my Facebook and when she saw I was going we started talking and CONNECTED so hard so fast… I had a feeling before I even knew I was going that a woman love was on the way (I’m bisexual)… The problem was her partner was gonna also be at the event with one of their children. There was this intense connection between us like I can’t explain. I couldn’t speak I would stutter… Chemistry, magnetism, my body would shake when I would walk away from her. She felt the same but like in your story she doesn’t face her emotions. She knew she wanted to leave her partner before me… And has broken up and back with her many times before… It was tumultuous from the start. She pretended to ignore me to not get attached and put on a show for her now ex and I was left feeling this almost obsession, deep longing, it was so intense, I only felt calm inside next to her. When we parted at the end of the event I didn’t think I’d hear from her again. But she did contact me and some of her wall came down. She told me all she felt… And two months later managed to get away and see me for 2 days (living 10hrs apart we didnt see each other in between) at a cabin…she said I filled her soul. There was definitely something different there. When we got back home she really wanted to be with me and I wasn’t ready. I was confused about my orientation… However I felt this connection beyond anything I’d experienced ever. I distanced myself. Then we kept it going… She broke up with her partner and were “together” Altho it being long distance…problem is she wouldn’t express herself. She couldn’t go beyond “I’m fine” when I would ask how she was. We couldn’t communicate because I was constantly hitting her wall and her refusal to look inside… Refusal to feel. I’m also like you, I got into reiki… I’m really into energy and god and all that and she doesn’t believe in any of that… So I disconnected from it to be with her. We had an emergency meet up to save our couple since we were now official. We were still deeply connected but as I pressed her to open up she shut down even more and broke up with me upon arrival back in our respective homes. We tried to stop talking, blocked and unblocked each other on Facebook about 30 times. We couldn’t seem to stop… We couldn’t stay away from each other. One day I tried to self Medicate with sex as I used to after my previous break up…I let a friend feel me up and she texted me asking what I did to get her out of my mind and I told her what I did and she once again tried to stop contacting me… but then i received flowers and she asked me back. I said no… But she insisted on seeing me again either for a last time or see if we could make it more. I agreed and saw her a month later and I have never felt such peace and connection with someone in my life… It was beyond everything we had experienced until then because she let her wall down. I wanted to go back with her in her state and see her real life and was planning on trying to move there (but as I’m in Canada it would require a lot of work to be able to move there)… She refused on the grounds that it would hurt her ex too much to see me as they still live together. Not even a week later she announced that she had therapy with her ex and for the sake of the kids must try again with her. I was devastated beyond words. Left again. I lost it, this time felt SO RIGHT… I blocked her. But we compulsively messaged back and forth still after. A few weeks later, she tells me that she realized she can’t be with her ex all she thinks of is me… And if I want to give us a real shot. I know it is doomed. I didn’t say yes or no… Then we decided to be friends for now. And yesterday I got drunk and tried to medicate with sex again which didn’t work cause I was cold as ice and couldn’t do it, ran back to my cell to tell her I loved her… I let her know what I did, she is way done with this… What we are doing. It is miserable to feel this connection and yet be completely unable to keep it… However dysfunctional it appears to be or how drained it leaves you. My heart and solar plexus feel attached to her still. You know it isn’t working… You know. But this soul connection is unexplainable… It goes through to your core. 2 weeks ago she texted me saying she wasn’t feeling well and I said me nether headache and sore throat. And she said wow me too. And I realize this connection goes way beyond… I don’t know how to let to but will ask micheal to cut the cord. The problem is wanting to… Really wanting to release that person. I’m sorry this is long and sounds probably just like a bad toxic relationship that was just doomed from the start but I KNOW this was a deep soul connection. Thank you for this article.

    • Sally Bowers Posted August 20, 2013 9:45 pm

      Your connection could also be a karmic connection. Neither of you are in the place you need to be to make it work, so trying is like banging your head against a wall. Try to make peace within your hearts and let go. If it were meant to be right now, it would be so much easier. The angels would align everything. But alas… timing is off. You can hang on for years… trust me, I did. If and when it’s meant to be, you will be put in each others paths and it will work effortlessly. If its not meant to be in this life, there is nothing you can do to make it work. It’s not easy and I wish you beautiful soul healing.

      Angel Blessings,

  • LeAnn Posted August 30, 2013 4:13 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story. It makes a lot of sense to me as I am in a very similar situation and learning to let go of a soul connection. Even though I know what the lesson is and see how it has set me on the path to being awake, it is still a very hard thing to do. Acceptance is never easy when we have to let go of our preconcieved notions of how things should be.

    • Sally Bowers Posted September 16, 2013 11:41 pm

      LeAnn I wish you all the best and comforting angels to guide you as well. You are right… it’s not easy.

  • Parul Posted November 6, 2013 6:45 am

    Sally, this is my sign not to backtrack either. i cut off my 3 year ties to SC yesterday, and happened to find your page. Thanks to synchronicity!!

    ps. you and i have had exactly same experiences!! Healing, energy connection, ‘checking in’ – how did you even use the same words as he does when he wants to see how i am doing!? Amazing… Thank you!! πŸ™‚

    • Sally Bowers Posted November 7, 2013 8:56 pm

      You make me smile Parul… Im happy you are doing well πŸ™‚


  • MarΓ­a Laura Posted April 8, 2014 4:15 am

    Sally, thank you so much for sharing your story, it was so helpful.
    I went through a similar situation (i didn t know it could be a karmic relationship)with a friend. I felt a very strong attraction the moment I met him, while we were taking a sailing course. He started seducing me, very slowly and nicely, but I rejected him because he was married and didn t want to get into trouble. Besides I am an Aries female and he is a Scorpio male and I had read that aries-scorpio is a very tough match. One year and a half later I decided to take the risk, perhaps he only needs to find a healthy relationship (I told to myself…)and then he will abandon his abusive co-dependent marriage. So I let loose my feelings, let him knew that I wanted to be with him, and then my nightmare started… He kept on making me believe he was going to leave his marriage, and in the meantime: one day he showed interest in me and criticized his current relationship (of course those days I “felt” i was in love) and the following day he would talk me about his future plans with his family. I tried to justify his behaviour, searching for excuses such as “he is in a difficult situation”, “he needs time”. This situation went on for more than a year. He got very jealous when other men were near me, and he even hacked my email account. I thought this kind of actions meant he loved me, and that he was just waiting for the right time to change his life for healthy love. I was so wrong, the truth is he was not willing to change his life but he did everything he could to keep me “in love”. When I decided to get apart, he kept on hacking my email account. It was so painful, but I realized that I needed to cut off any kind of relationship whith him, at least until I am fully healed. I closed my email account, and I havent seen him for a couple of months. I think he understood, because he hasnt looked for me anymore.

    Sally, thanks again for your story, I feel Im not alone…

    Maria Laura

    • Sally Bowers Posted April 14, 2014 6:16 pm

      Maria…. all I can say is wow! Im so happy you got through it (Im sure you still are). That kind of connection isn’t easy to let go of. And even harder to truly see it as it is. THe first thing I saw while reading your message, and that Im sure you wondered about, was that in a year and a half of this flirtation… he never made the move to end his current relationship. But the holding you in that place of staying in love with him… that is a skill I swear and he was very good at it. Trust me I so understand that pull and seeing it as something else ( better). His marriage is what he made you believe it was. It may not necessarily be all that bad. But I feel for his wife because you were probably not the first, nor will you be the last. You felt the soul connection. He didn’t (Not likeyou). If he had the pull would have had him making different choices. But I have also learned that the soul connections that we are meant to be with are NOT with another person. The universe wont bring you to another who is already committed in order to create a life together. For karmic reasons… yes. To complete past karmic debt, yes. But not for the kind of life you truly want.

      I wish you so much happness in your future because it is on its way to you. You just had to complete this part of your journey. πŸ™‚
      If I could reach out and give you a hug I would! I hope you’ll stay in touch. I am on facebook (Sally Donohoe Bowers) or (Blue Butterfly Of Hope)
      Much love,

  • Patience Posted April 29, 2014 5:02 pm

    I feel like I am going through this currently with a man I met while living in another state. I have met a few men but for some reason I cannot get over this man. The moment we met it just felt so passionate and intense and beautiful. I felt that we had a connection but that this man is scared and is also very deceptive. It’s a horrible yearning because now I am in my home town until about August of this year, and I will be moving back to the state I just came from so I can’t see him. We aren’t on good talking terms at the moment but I feel I will hear from him again…the last time I felt that way I was right. I had a dream he was going to contact me again after not talking to me for about two months through some type of messaging. Two days later I received a text from him late at night. I have been told that we were married in a previous life time and had children, but that he was the gambling/drinking type and he abandoned me and our children in the previous life time. How true that is, I’m not sure. But I do feel a very strong pull to this man and I have never felt this way. Not even with my ex husband! I am hoping I will heal from this, the feelings will not go away no matter how hard I try to push them aside they remain! I guess I will have to be patient!

    • Sally Bowers Posted July 22, 2014 6:57 pm

      What you are feeling is a karmic connection.. the way you heal this karmic debt is to learn in this life to choose you. No doubt you will hear from him.. texting is the safest thing in the world for him. He can keep you hanging on as long as h e wants to as long as you allow this. TO choose you and your happiness and know that you deserve better would be to eliminate all safety access to you. If he wants to be with you, he will. If he wants to talk to you, he will. If he cant reach you because you’ve blocked him, he will find another way. But I think you know hes not in that place to do this. It’s not safe. He’d have to actually participate with you. His fear stops him. HE needs to heal as much as you do. Please heal yourself so you dont bring this to you again. Only you can. It took me a long time to get to the point of truly letting go, blocking, not allowing myself to be pulled back in for HIS benefit. Now Im free. It took 5 years. I hope you choose you much sooner than that.

      Angel Blessings to you!!

  • Ruby Posted July 8, 2014 8:03 am

    Wow, I needed to read this. Thank you so much for sharing. It resonates to my exact situation which I Have been questioning And holding On To For So long, knowing I need to let go. It’s hard when you believe that it can work yet knowing he’s not ready. I love this guy so much and I was willing to wait but, I know, I’m only hurting myself by doing this and it is also holding me back from being fully present with myself. It’s such a painful experience and I hope it passes quickly. But, again, thank you for sharing. It helped me get some clarity which I was seeking. Namaste! :)β™‘

    • Sally Bowers Posted July 22, 2014 6:47 pm

      Im so happy you truly know what you need to do for YOU!

  • timing Posted July 28, 2014 9:40 am

    thanks for this. i’ve just read this while contemplating trying to have a freindship again with a difficult past life connection. he was married when we met, it was instantaneous recognition and deep soul connection on both sides, but he was my boss (and married), so despite an overwhelming connection and attraction we kept our conversations ‘professional’ even though both of us knew how deeply we felt about eachother. despite being attracted to him, i always felt that I didn’t need anything romantically or sexually from him, that i wasn’t jealous of his life and didn’t want him as a partner (my higher self knows that would have been a disaster! we’re not evolved enough yet to handle this kind of energy) but I always secretly hoped that we would become and remain close friends, that I could confide in him throughout the tumultuous changes that seemed to be happening in our lives. his company was just enough, in a way. he eventually got another job, took another stab at his marriage, and left (totally understandable), but we didn’t become friends. I can see that it was just too much for him, and probably for me as well, as i was always having to calm myself down around him and resist pouring out how i felt all over him like a tsunami. It was really painful letting go. I got married to someone else, an amazing person, and every now and then he does ‘check in’. When I reciprocate and offer a genuine invitation to be part of my actual life, he generally backs off. So, I feel badly for him, because I feel I know what I want out of this and he doesn’t. The connection is still there, but so far it’s not causing me too much harm, except when he daydreams about me innappropriately and it’s like waves of bliss that are just impossible to ignore. this February he experienced some kind of traumatic or shocking event that I felt even though we hadn’t spoken in months – it was kick an electric surge to the heart that left him completely bottomed out. I want more than anything to be there for him or comfort him somehow, but I know he just won’t let me. I am sure we will have to reach a point where either (1) we come together as friends to discuss these issues honestly and work through them as adults or (2) i cut the cord for good beacause he is not mature enough to handle this or tries to have an affair with me. But, I don’t feel it’s the right time to do that… at least yet.

    I did have a past life memory of our relationship and i feel we have both gravitated (via our work) to the exact neighborhood where we lived before, around the old buildings that were our haunts and homes. Something was taboo about our relationship, either a class difference, or i was some sort of political radical. being with him in the past life was some sort of spiritual/sexual awakening for me – he touched me in parts of my heart that have been neglected since, even in this life – i’ve been afraid to open myself up like that to anyone emotionally/sexually. He was called off to war to serve and I absolutely lost my mind dealing with the pain of loss by using opiates. When he finally returned I was so high and in hospital that I wasn’t even there any more. My memory is of his last visit, him saying goodbye to me and me not really understanding he was leaving me for good until the sun went down after he left – the most painful recollection i have ever experienced, knowing that I have lost him for good and that I will never see him again. ‘Losing’ him again in this life was what triggered this deeply painful memory, and forced me to deal with my escapist tendancies. Why do I want this spirutual trancendance back anyway? What about my real life is so difficult to deal with? In real life, you have to make real sacrifices and really work at your relationships, and consider the other person’s view and not just your personal growth and development.

    So if we can both stop drinking the kool aid and fantasising about eachother, i’m sure we could be friends. i’m prepared to do the work. If he’s not though, this page is reminding me that I need to be realistic and protect my goals and dreams. Thank you!

    • Sally Bowers Posted September 3, 2014 8:29 pm

      Timing….. You already have your answers πŸ™‚ But I understand how hard it is. Look forward. This came to you to heal the karmic tie in this life. Friendship is not necessary to do that. It’s more about forgiving yourself and knowing what is best for you and choosing it. And being able to let go. When you do… those moments where you feel him will stop. But you will only do this when you’re ready.

      Happy future to you!!!

  • Ancita Posted August 19, 2014 8:25 pm

    Hello Sally

    I have found this blog very fascinating and that much of what you said truly resonates with what I believe in. I am considering a separation with my spouse. It is very difficult as we recently discovered he has Aspergers Syndrome. He has treated me very poorly over the 10 yrs we have been married and there is nothing more I would wish for than to save my marriage but I cannot do it alone as he isnt interested in therapy or talking to friends or family. I do not trust that he can cope with this on his own and that after a period of time his behaviour will return again.

    I was wondering why I have experienced abusive relationships and can trace this all the way back to my infancy.

    I want to break this chain of events, start believing that I am worth so much more and rid myself of self doubt.

    I have a young child so breaking our family apart isnt an easy decision.

    What would your advise be to start this healing process? I do believe in God and Jesus and pray often. Know I feel I have taken on a new perspective on life because of my experiences I want to stay on this path of light.

    I hope you can help me.

    • Sally Bowers Posted September 3, 2014 8:19 pm

      Alberta, only your heart can truly decide what you want and need. Follow whatyou feel inside. Your pattern of abusive relationships can be from this life but feels it goes further back and was brought forward into this life. Choosing whats right for you in your heart is a start to healing. Noone can decide that for you. You can only be guided. Trust the signs. πŸ™‚ Your soul knows what to do.

      Angel blessings to you,

  • Bubbles12 Posted August 24, 2014 2:34 am

    I’m going through the same thing. Reaching a place where I can be thankful I experienced such a depth of connection in this lifetime. He is much younger than me. On a practical level it could never work, but I’ve never loved like this before. And probably won’t again.
    I release you to your most beautiful life! Thank you for the love you were able to give back.

    • Sally Bowers Posted September 3, 2014 8:15 pm

      Thank you Teri πŸ™‚ Much love and peace to your heart <3


  • kathleen menendez burgess Posted August 29, 2014 12:48 pm

    Sally – which “The Journey Home” book is it. I checked on Amazon and there are a couple of books by that title which seem to fit the bill. I was just wondering which was the one that you were referring to which helped you and that you recommend. Is it the Lee Carroll – Kryon one? or by another author? I would be so interested to know……….Thanks and hoping to hear from you – have a great weekend…….Kathleen

    • Sally Bowers Posted September 3, 2014 8:14 pm

      Hi Kathleen, It’s by Lee Carroll πŸ™‚ Enjoy!!

  • Kathy Posted November 28, 2014 4:13 am

    Thank you! I needed to read this. From your words above “… we should never over compensate, or put more energy into another person than we do into ourselves or love another more than we love ourselves, especially if it’s not balanced and being returned.” To healing! Thank you again.

    • Sally Bowers Posted March 8, 2015 7:04 pm

      Happy you enjoyed πŸ™‚

  • Nan Posted January 22, 2015 6:47 am

    This is a beautiful story and it resonates with me deeply. Thank you πŸ™‚

    • Sally Bowers Posted March 8, 2015 7:01 pm

      Glad you enjoyed it! πŸ™‚

  • Jasmine Posted March 15, 2015 11:13 pm

    Glad I found this and read it. There isn’t much information out there on how to cut this kind of bond with someone. After reading I started the process. I hope it works for me even while I am pregnant with his child. I am beyond ready for it to be done and stop communicating w/ him in my dreams.
    Thank you again, so much.

    • Sally Bowers Posted May 4, 2015 8:58 pm

      Jasmine, I wish you all you need to get through. It’s difficult enough without a child on the way. But know that your child holds a special reason this happened. The rest doesn’t matter… (easy to say I know)

      God bless you!

  • Fairy Posted March 18, 2015 6:13 pm

    Hello Sally,
    Thanks so much for sharing your story . It resonates with him . I am also experiencing a past life connection currently . There’s this man I first crossed paths with around 8 months ago . The minute we met,I felt drawn to him . There was this attraction, intense pull towards each other , locking eyes with each other etc. He is in a relationship already which I completely respect . We keep away from each other .However , we both know there’s something between us . Even , though we have barely said a few words to each other , we have this mutual understanding and respect . I just want to forget about him and move on . I know it’s not meant to be obviously . I keep saying to myself that I will forget about him , but each time our paths cross , it’s like I am back to square one …The connection is amazing but I want to release him and cut all past life ties . Hope I succeed soon . I am thankful to him more than he will ever know . I learned so many lessons which have changed me ..

    • Sally Bowers Posted May 4, 2015 8:56 pm

      Trinity…. You have been blessed NOT to have gone further. Actions will always help you see whats real and what cant be. You already know, and it’s brutally difficult to let go, but now that you have felt this… you wont ever settle for anything less (and that also works!). That’s the divine part of all of these relationships. They wake us up to feel this type of connection, so we can get ready for the one who will go the distance once we are healed and ready. πŸ™‚

      So many blessings to you!!

  • Bianca Posted April 23, 2015 7:23 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story, I can completely and totally relate to it, I was in tears during a couple parts of reading it because it reminds me of the connection between my karmic soul partner and I. I know what that kind of pain is like and how deeply it hurts to let go of such a connection. I’ve been struggling with this for a couple years of trying to break this bond and severe the tie so I could move on with my life. Me and my karmic partner were together for 2-3 years, known eachother for 8 years from which we have gone from this on and off back and forth swing of disconnecting and reconnecting which makes it difficult. The connection I had with this person was So deep and intense, I’ve never loved anyone like this or knew I had the capacity to love in this way. This person touched my life in a profound way and they will always be a part of me. The thing I’m wondering is how do you let go without having the urge to reconnect with them? I’m not sure if this is a lesson I have yet not learned, but all I know is I have suffered an enormous amount of pain to which I am absolutely ready to let go completely of this connection as this person is not ready or able to love me the way I deserve. Any input? Thanks for posting this article, it gave me hope that someday I can reach the healing you did, and move forward.

    • Sally Bowers Posted May 4, 2015 8:52 pm

      Bianca, I feel your pain. This kind of connection is not easy when it doesn’t work. Some do… but not all. Letting go will come when you can truly disconnect. Even after I wrote my post, it’s been years and he still leaves notes at my door or on my car to keep the connection going (I blocked him on my phone after 7 years so I could go forward). It’s his only way of holding on, but know this… he does this when Im not here or asleep. So it’s like sending a safe text. It’s safe. For you it’s a little different because he is coming to you and you take him back. Think of it…. do you want a temporary fix or a life long love? He is your temporary fix which keeps your lifelong love away. The energy you hold puts a wall around you to keep you from what you would like to have. You’re not ready for it… not really. If you were you wouldn’t have the urge to reconnect. When enough time has passed and you reclaim your worth, your power, you will block that urge and go forward. I still wonder at times… but Im lightyears from where I was. I know you want to let go completely…. when you are ready, you will block every way he can get to you, so YOU can move on. Always watch what he does…not what he says. That will help you. Do his words match his actions. Is he there for you.. always? Time without any connection will give you perspective. I know you can do this… and I know how much it hurts. I wish it were different for you. But I also know the lesson of worth you develop from this will bring you to someone worth giving yourself to, and in turn they will give themselves to you COMPLETELY.

      If you can find me on Facebook.. I”d love to stay in touch.
      Angel Blessings to you <3

      FB: Sally Donohoe Bowers

  • Nncy Posted July 1, 2015 3:22 pm

    Thank you for writing this. It helped me more than you can imagine. I am in a same situation..

    • Sally Bowers Posted June 17, 2016 8:18 pm

      You’re very welcome πŸ™‚

  • k Posted August 8, 2015 5:27 am

    How to move out of karmic relationship when ypu both are deep in love and he acts like a kid holding my hand tight whenever i tell him thats we should end this. Iam deeply in love with him and so is he we are just 21 roght now but i know if in future we get to a state where any of us would be asked to get mariied il..we wouldnever be able to mary someone else and i know iam never gona be happy in his family sp please tell me how to move on when love is so deep from both side but just the family is a ptoblem

    • Sally Bowers Posted June 17, 2016 8:17 pm

      Im only just seeing this message and I wonder if you are still together. You have the love but you must also have respect. That means to love each other and keep family on the outside of your personal union. I hope you have achieved this….

  • Del Posted August 14, 2015 9:47 pm

    Sally, I was hoping you could help me with a question that I have. I was in a healing session with someone and was asked if I was dealing with someone who was hurting me or making me angry and I said yes, because my girlfriend and I have been fighting a bit more lately, but have slowly and surely been working on it. Now, the healer asked me to repeat after her and it involved something about cutting ties to my girlfriend from my soul and releasing the connection to her. I didn’t realize it but she told me after the session that she helped me sever the karmic? bonds or cords, I’m not sure how she phrased it, between us. That is NOT what I wanted at all and am now fearful for our present and possible future (in another lifetime) relationships. I repeated what she said but I guess I didn’t fully grasp what was happening. I thought I was releasing the negativity, not severing ties. What is your take on this? Can it be reversed, or because it’s not actually what I want that it won’t happen? Thank you so very much for your time.

    • Sally Bowers Posted June 17, 2016 8:14 pm

      Del, if this is not what your soul wanted (And it wasn’t), then it was not done. You have no worries. πŸ™‚ Noone can cut a cord that you do not want cut. Besides… they reattach constantly when you are still involved! πŸ™‚ When I was trying to heal from my pain I asked for all cords of attachment to my soul man to be cut… it didn’t make any difference because deep down I was not ready to let go. They have since been cut as I was ready. There is a huge difference. πŸ™‚

  • Lynn Denney Posted September 7, 2015 3:48 am

    My current situation is truly word for word as you described yours. I did not take a class, but I did work directly with healers. We had 16 happy, wonderful months and then he just pulled away without much explanation. He said I did nothing wrong and that he couldn’t love me or anyone. He said I was perfect and passionate and beautiful and he was choosing to walk away, anyway. This devastated me like the worst pain I’ve ever known.

    I love love love the way you describe the soul contract and how the other person is not ready. Because of the intensity of emotion, the beautiful passion and connection we shared, I’m having the hardest time letting go. I have this terror I’ll never have a love like we had. He does not reply to any attempt to communicate, but randomly checks in. This kills me. I want to cut the tie. I carry heavy sorrow in my chest and have even been treated for breast cancer since he left. It’s a physical weight in my chest, the sorrow, and I’m ready to give it up.

    Thank you for your essay. I hope it helps me RELEASE!

    • Lynn Denney Posted September 7, 2015 4:05 am

      To add to my prior post, a healer I worked with did see, as I knew intuitively, that we had several past lives together. In more than a dozen life times, he owned me as a slave. In several lifetimes, we were lovers. I wasn’t thrilled about the slave owning revelation, but it did explain things. The depth and intensity at which we connected was so powerful. And despite the fact that he rarely communicates to me, I do feel him at times and have dreams in which he’s there. (I just wanted to add that)

    • Sally Bowers Posted June 17, 2016 8:09 pm

      Time will help you let go…. Find happiness on your own, in little mundane things. It wont feel good at first but in time you will choose things that make you truly happy. Just going home alone and reading a book or getting excited to sit and see a movie you’ve been waiting to see, just yourself in your living room… that is when you know you have healed. He may always be with you, but it doesn’t have to derail your life forever. And it wont. Wish him happiness and truly mean it. Then your soul will be free. πŸ™‚

  • Jonette Posted September 13, 2015 2:45 pm

    Sally I just came across your story and felt connect to it in a strange way .. I was searching about karmic cleansing . I saw a physic and they told me I had lot of bad karma and it needs cleaning otherwise which I have a fork in journey next year if I don’t chose right I will be exiting this life .. It scared me much. She didn’t explain much other than I keep coming back and failing and I have been with my husband before but he’s not my soul mate but j would be with him til the end .. I felt like maybe I went to the wrong type psyic maybe she was dark .. Can karma kill you ? I no I have done some bad things and have asked for forgiveness but I know I still hold some in .
    Thank you for any help you can give

    • Sally Bowers Posted June 17, 2016 8:05 pm

      Jonette, it sounds like you had a reading from someone in ego. Not a good thing. I speak with Angels for guidance and it’s never dark. It’s positive and helps people move forward. It’s not always what they want to hear because it means taking action for themselves to move forward.. but that in itself is a good thing. We are not told when we will pass on to the next life. That is not our decision. That is between your soul and God. I would not worry πŸ™‚ Imagine pure divine white light in your heart, and fill your entire being with it… breathe it in. Let it clear you. You can have an energy healer clear you as well. They have more experience. But you can do daily clearing of negative energy by filling with divine white light and believing in it’s power to keep you safe. I do energy healing/clearing as well. Check my schedule if you’d like me to “clean you up”, so to speak. πŸ™‚ My schedule is on my site at Hold onto your belief. God is not here to punish us. He wants us to do our best and enjoy our life while doing our best to help others when needed.

  • Tarryn Posted September 26, 2015 12:59 am

    Hi there

    It is as though my future self has written this
    However he has moved on. He is married now.
    I can still feel him holding on to me. I just cant seem to let go. We have a son together which makes it so much harder. Not that he makes regular appearnaces. maybe ince or twice a year. just as I think im almost ready to let go he pops up.
    The last 2 weeks I have been recollecting dreams every night. They are all intense in some shape or form. Hes not in any of them. But I know its somehow connected. However when I awake, as I start to explain the dream it all fizzles away. This is frustrating. I love this man. I do know that we will/can never be in this lifetime again and sometimes just wish he would fall off the face of the earth. Wishful thinking I suppose. He’s put me through hell. He has taught me much in the process and the last time he was around… almost a year ago, he gave me something positive. Energy and crystal work. Something beautiful. I don’t think im ready to let go just yet. The time will come and I will be at peace. Until then, I know I have long and bumpy journey ahead. Thank you for these words. I feel I have a direction to move towards.

    • Sally Bowers Posted June 17, 2016 7:57 pm

      Tarryn, I wish you so much courage and strength. It’s not easy, and you are not ready to let go yet. Just keep in mind that he has moved on… even if he still stinks of you or feels connected.. he is going forward. Time flies!! As of now it’s been 8 years for me and he still texts me wanting to talk. I cannot answer. I let so many years pass me by just waiting and wondering. Try not to let that happen, ok? You are worth so much more. And there is another out there that will connect with your soul in a very similar way, only better. He will be ready for you!!

  • Jane Posted October 5, 2015 1:15 am

    Ive been going thru something similar. I have a bf, and this guy ive been having a affair with also has has a gf and a kid. Weve been talking for almost 5 yrs. We work together so thats what makes it hard to end. Basically most of r relationship has been through texting. He is the one that initiated contact. Ive been wit my bf who i live with for 12 yrs n him with his gf for 7yrs.
    Its been up and down. The first time i seen him at work there was that instant attraction. But nothing happened. Fast forward 3 yrs later he msges me. At first i told him he had to stop. He did and thats when i began missing him.
    After that the cycle anywhere between 2-4 weeks of not msgin eachother keeps playin out. We were intimate. Most of r relationship is. I just want it to end. I do my part and stay away but i always give in when he msgs me. A part of me is scared that if i block him he will tell everyone at work. We ended things a million times and somehow cant stay away. Note, im never the one to initiate anything. I block hik for a day then feel scared and guilty.
    I know we have a karmic tie since i am a gemini and he is a leo. Also, i am a 8 person, he is a 4. In numerology these 2 numbers attract eachother. All things seem so fated. When we dont speak i have crazy dreams of him. Or his name pops up alot especially when we dont speak. Ill be watching tv or on the computer and somethin reminds me of him. All this seems too fatalistic. This , whatever it is scares me. Too many coincidences.
    I know this is wrong for obvoius reasons. Im doing my part, but cant seem to control myself when he initiates contact.
    I am confused. Y would this happen when i truly do love my bf. Its like im compelled when we speak. Its such a screwed up situtation. I want to end this. I dont want to ruin any1s life. I love this man. But, this whole situation would cause so much heartache to everyone involved. How did this happen? Y? And what is ur advice?
    Thank you in advance

  • Jane Posted October 5, 2015 8:04 pm

    Hi there,
    I myself have been going thru something similar.
    Me and this man work together.
    We both are in relationships with other ppl and he recently had a kid. From the moment he started workin here there was an instant attraction. Never thought about it or acted on it. Fast forward 3 yrs later he msged me. At first i turned him down bc we were both in a relationship. Told him to never contact me. Weeks went by and he started n this time i was into it. Basically for almost 5 yrs weve been fooling around. Each time we do i say we cant talk anymore bc of the guilt. 2 weeks without speaking the cycle begins again. Always him initating contact. I try to block him and then the one day i unblock him a msg comes thru. I get sucked back in.
    Its like in compelled when i speak to him. Like im in another state. Its hard to describe. Im scared to permantly block him bc i have to see him everyday and im scared he will tell ppl if he gets mad.
    Ive heard we have a karmic tie as i am a gemini and he is a leo. In numerology im an 8 and hes a 4. Apparently these numbers attract eachother and are fatalistic. Not sure what that means.
    All i know is that we are telepathic. When we dont speak i get alot of signs in dreams or jus randomly seeing or hearing something that reminds me of him. His name for example.
    Dont no how and why this happened. I do love my bf, so i dont no y i continue to get sucked in. I do want to end this for obvoius reasons. I love him but i no too many ppl will get hurt.
    Any advice?

    • Sally Bowers Posted June 17, 2016 7:50 pm

      Jane, noone can tell you what to do. This kind of connection is very difficult to let go of especially when you both want it. But as you have said, you are both in relationships separate from each other. It appears that they are relationships you want to remain in. If that is the case, ending the cycle is the only way to continue with the separate lives you have built. Only YOU can break this connection if it’s not a mutual decision. There are lessons here. The outcome if you continue might be more than you ever want to bear. Think a bout what it is you truly want for your life and then choose that! If it’s him… and he is willing to do the same then you go in that direction. Though it may not be what you both think… as there wont be the allure of secrecy. If he does not want to go in that direction, then you have your answer. What you do is completely up to you. Your self worth is taking the brunt of this back and forth. When you say no I cant, coming back again is even more powerful in its attraction. That is what keeps the cycle going. I chose my self worth over the relationship of only getting crumbs. I am worth more, and so are you!

      • Jane Posted August 10, 2016 5:23 pm

        Thank u for ur insight.
        Its crazy bc i no im worth so much more thats y i dont understand y the minute we speak its like i go into a daze and just live in the moment.
        I want to block all ways of speaking to him but its really hard bc we work together. Even when i tell him that we cant talk somehow we always do.
        I no there is something for me to learn here.
        I wish he could just let me go and never speak to me again.
        Hes the one that always initiates contact.
        Im getting older and want to focus on the next chapter of my life and becoming a mom, but i no it will be so hard bc he will always b there in the back of my mind. N seeing him is what makes it so much harder

  • Mandy Posted November 27, 2015 4:06 am

    So my question…. I know I need to move on. I also know without a doubt he spent a long life with me, maybe multiple and I have lost him to death in a previous life. From the beginning, before I even realized the soul connection, I cried at the “death loss” when looking at his eyes in a picture. We had a beautiful thing. Our souls talk to one another over great distances. We feel things, but we are not walking together this lifetime, nor does he have any intention of staying reunited. The problem for me, when I agree in my head to let him go, I feel tremendous sadness, like someone at a funeral burying a loved one. It’s extreme. I know he’s alive and I’m happy and hopeful he will live out a beautiful life on this planet. I truly love him, so I want to let him go. What do I do with this extreme sadness and what do I do with the panic that something has happened to him. I wish I’d never experienced a karmic love, it’s so beautiful and free flowing but I feel it’s like reaching the top of Mount Everest in love. Especially with this man, that is how strong it was. I want to climbe down off this mountain, but I don’t want to experience this pain of losing someone I’ve known for many lifetimes for the rest of my life. What do I do? I have tried deleting contact from him, and also finding another love…I cannot bear to delete everything of his memory Out of my life, and dating other people now is like watching a favorite television show in the wrong language, it just feels wrong… What do I do?

    • Sally Bowers Posted June 17, 2016 7:41 pm

      Mandy…. time is what you need. Time alone. I understand that pain. The feeling of death , not just loss. Only time apart can give you clarity. It took me years and he still comes around, texting me. It hurts but you have to find what fills you within. Not from anything or anyone outside yourself. And the depths you will feel, I pray the angels will spare you most of that. But I promise you that in time you will find your heart again and you will feel whole again. And you will find happiness again. I send so many blessings to you on your journey.

      Much love,

  • Tracy Posted April 8, 2016 8:27 am

    Thank you so much for every word! It gave me confirmation, reaffirmation, and hope and reassurancale all at the same time! I know now I can and will pass this test, as well! Much light and love to you! Namaste!:-D

    • Sally Bowers Posted June 17, 2016 7:32 pm

      And to you as well Tracy πŸ™‚

  • Rebecca Posted April 21, 2016 1:36 am

    Your story really clarified confusing things to me and I thank you ever so much for your willingness to share them. Over a year ago I had an almost overwhelming encounter with a man who my soul knew and loved so well that my physical body was taken over and it took all my effort to prevent it from making me run up to this stranger and give him a giant hug! I was afraid to go around him for months, but finally got the courage. It’s true how much these beings awake in us that we didn’t know was there. I spent the next year as his dance student us having a complete energetic relationship but absolutely nothing in this realm. He made walls to not even engage friendly where he was comfortable with everyone else. He was the first to teach me about jealousy, rejection, full expression and, in the end , to not attach to anything. The toughest lessons on romance I ever got! But I am moving on now, after learning so much I am truly ready to accept only that man who I can feel that right with but who is just as open and loving as I am. Your explanation helped me stay strong in this path – too often we doubt whether we weren’t patient enough and so wait far too long. When you don’t feel good and it’s bringing you down more than up, then it’s time to go another path.

    Thank you and many blessings!!!

    • Sally Bowers Posted June 17, 2016 7:31 pm

      Clarity is a beautiful thing isn’t it? πŸ™‚ Thank you for sharing Rebecca!!!

  • Sonal S Posted July 9, 2016 7:01 pm

    Hey , I cant tell you how happy I am reading your article. I have the same situation that keeps on repeating and doesnt let me go. I have been a through a lot due to this.I have got this feeling that this is a karmic relationship and I have got my answer as to how to deal with it. Thanks a ton for this article..

    • Sally Bowers Posted August 5, 2016 6:26 pm

      You’re very welcome :)))

  • Terrie Crocker Posted October 18, 2016 7:00 am

    If you ever find a relationship that is always easy and smooth sailing then somebody is a liar.. Also, you CAN heal karmic relationships.. And I don’t think I believe I have past lives. One life to live… One

    • Sally Bowers Posted February 12, 2017 9:05 pm


      You are right… no relationship is easy or all smooth sailing. But when it’s working and working well… you stick with it. Even when it’s not. But if you are banging your head against a wall trying to “make” it work… then you need to take a long hard look at what’s not working. Often times we have to look at ourselves to figure this out. Our answers are inside ourselves. I respect your beliefs. I can only speak from my own experiences and what I’m shown. As you can only speak from yours. We all have our own beliefs about this life we live. And that’s ok. That’s life itself. This blog about Karmic bonds is completely understood by those who have experienced this type of connection. It is described identically by all who have lived it. For those that haven’t lived this yet, I would never expect them to understand what I’ve written. It would be impossible. But for those all over the world that have written to me about this… Their stories hold the same experiences. Minor variations of course as every person is different in how they see the world.. but the connection and what happens within it.. it’s identical. I trust what they say because I’ve lived it myself. I feel their words, their pain. Sometimes it’s to learn from and move on, and other times it’s to learn from and really look at ourselves in order to enrich the experience, making it better than you ever thought it could be. I wish the latter for all. But I’ve learned that that is not always what is meant to be for each person in this type of relationship. I’m so very proud of those who can learn and move forward with their self worth intact. Life is too short to be stuck in a relationship where one partner is constantly running away and then coming back and then running again. But for those who have not experienced this type of connection… it is THE hardest connection to walk away from and can take years. People can look from the outside and say… just walk away! Why accept that behavior? Kick him or her to the curb. But because of the understanding we have for their pain, we stay much longer than we would with ANY other relationship. Compassion is what is needed from friends and family to help their loved ones through the process. But most have not experienced this type of connection so they can only advice from their own life experience. I had only 3 people in my life that understood and were able to listen and not judge. The rest walked away from ME because they got frustrated. I’ll bet that each person that has written to me can say the same. Yes those friends and family are still in my life but I cant say one word about this person in their presence. I cannot fault them for how they feel. They cannot possibly understand what they have not themselves experienced. It’s just how it is.

      Thank you for writing and for expressing your feelings. I truly appreciate it. You help me see from your point of view. πŸ™‚

      Many blessings to you Terrie!

  • Moksha Posted October 26, 2016 12:23 pm

    Can i cry for the last time in the realization that this is nothing more than a karmic relationship… seems so final… so i cry the final cry and let go… i wish all of you the very best in the path to self realization… Sela

    • Sally Bowers Posted February 12, 2017 8:42 pm

      Bless you Moksha <3

  • Oh-la-la Posted November 2, 2016 8:22 pm

    Dear Sally, I resonated with your post (going back some years now) and all the replies. I believe too that I have been in a karmic relationship. A huge connection but unfortunately very little else to keep us together. Difficulties too in terms of age (me being substantially older) and a long distance between us in terms of miles. I can safely say that it has been the most passionate relationship I have ever had and the attraction was off the wall. I suffered greatly though and mostly from his hot and cold behavior, inconsistency and lack of empathy. It has been 6 months since we last met and ‘weaning’ myself off him has been a bit like giving up a drug, in my case cigarettes, one day at a time knowing that one weak moment means going back to zero. I am glad to say that today, I am feeling much better. I know longer think of him incessantly but from time to time and with a lot less heartache. The emotional storm is over. If there is one thing I have learned and one thing only and that is that you should not depend on somebody else for love, validation, respect and all those things we should get from ourselves. I suppose that is what you call ‘the journey’ we need to make, finding not so much happiness, which can be transient, but peace. Strangely enough, a few weeks after our last encounter, I got a terrible bout of sciatica – rendered me almost immobile – and I wonder if it is not connected, I always heard that sciatica has a psychological component. It is now easing up as I come to terms with the end of that relationship and get ready for a new start. I would not really wish another stormy relationship like that, I wish I could say that the highs were worth the lows, but it has not been the case :). Best wishes, your blog is great!

    • Sally Bowers Posted February 12, 2017 8:41 pm

      Dear Callaghan,

      I too got hit with sciatica!!! It was definitely connected as he also had a leg issue which I didn’t know at the time. There was so much to learn and I keep learning. Your words about not depending on someone else for love and validation was exactly what you needed to know deep down. As much as you knew… you didn’t. You are so much farther along than you think. Kudos to you πŸ™‚ When people write to me about this I’m so proud of all they have learned and embraced. It’s no easy task as you know. Not with these connections. But it’s worth the growth we gain from it. The greatest love you will ever experience is that you 100% give to yourself. πŸ™‚ OK maybe second.. ha ha God’s love is immeasurable. But his desire for us is to be able to love ourselves as he loves us. Not always easy. But when you reach that level of growth… there is nothing that will ever tear you down again πŸ™‚

      Many blessings to you!!!

  • Jen Posted January 2, 2017 9:36 am

    Why didnt I find this post ages ago.
    I thought my connection with this man thats in a relationship was my twin flame. I had all the signs, every single one of them. The insights, the telepathy, heart charka activation, all my fears coming up, see right through him. Im now gifted, well actually learning and understanding my gifts. I had the mystical experience EVERYTHING.
    But overtime I began to wonder his intentions, I began to doubt his actions. I told myself “no, I need to be understanding, have compassion for him, dont judge him. Trying my hardest to do everything I could because I loved him deeply.
    But in that process I was putting my own feelings and wantings aside. I did want him fully in my life. But I could never have it wbile he was with her. I thought that I was a cow because I wanted him to be with me, that I was being selfish because I wanted him to leave her.
    Over time I had a “hold on” moment. Hold on, I deserve more, I totally deserve more. Why am I sooo hung up in a guy that clearly doesnt want to be with me?
    So I tried to let go. But every time we made eye contact I couldnt let go but I kept trying and trying and trying. Over time I started to see who he really was. I was starting to turn off him. I dont know what it was I was starting to not like him any more, as long as we didnt make eye contact. I was fine.
    Now I beginning to see that this has to be karmic. Some things off, I cant see a future with him but I adore and love him so it has to be karmic right?
    I was in pain and suffering for months. But once I chose to let go, it stopped. The pain stopped. Sometimes its still there from my own thought process but I will learn.
    Yes the connection is still there. It will probably be there for eternity but as you said, hes here for me to learn from.
    Iv become soo independent, self reliant, more happy, more understanding of life and why we are here, I love myself more. I was trying to change myself but I was perfect just the way I was.
    Sometimes im thankful but im still learning and the triggers are still happening but there not lasting as long and im starting to understand why they keep happening.
    So I just put the intention of reaching the 5th dimension and me and him talking to eachother and releasing our karmic bond to eachother together. As long as I set the intention and focus on myself. I will manifest my desires in divine timing.
    Thank you. As I read your post I was fully into your story because I can totally resonate with it.
    Thank you so much

    • Sally Bowers Posted February 12, 2017 8:31 pm

      Jen, Thank you for sharing your story with me. I apologize for the delay in responding. My site doesn’t notify me of messages. You are on your way and I think you have the perfect understanding of what has happened and what is right for you. trust your intuition. πŸ™‚

      Many blessings to you!!

  • Dejuir Posted March 17, 2017 12:38 am

    Hello Sally, I just came across your site. I was moved by your story. My story is completely different from everyone else’s. I’m seeing a guy who is my twin flame. We have such a great relationship and we are happy, satisfied and in awe at how great real love feels. Things started badly because we were always very attracted to each other;but before we could truly be together a woman moved in next door to me and he started dating and moved in with her. To make a long story short I had to work through my jealousy and bitterness in order to help him grow spiritually; since this woman put him through so much hell. How ironic is it that the woman he passed up was the one comforting, supporting, loving him and wiping his tears

  • Dejuir Posted March 17, 2017 12:43 am

    (Continued) I helped him learn peace and choose joy and he worked through his karma with her. Now me and him are together and him but she still keeps calling and popping up at his home(she still wants him to feel sorry for her but he doesn’t anymore. He’s made it clear that he’s truly done) and nhe’s no longer answering his phone or going to see her to help out anymore. I truly feel bothered that she won’t leave him alone when hes finally happy.

    • Sally Bowers Posted May 17, 2017 10:13 pm

      Hi Rickhie,
      Attraction is rarely the problem. It’s often a distraction that holds each other back from healing. But if you can work with it and find compassion in the “mistakes”, you will truly lift each other up within your relationship. Her contact is her part of her journey to deal with. You can only feel for her pain. Enjoy your blessing and let go of her interference. She has her own level of pain and regret. Hopefully she can heal as well. Thank you for sharing your happiness πŸ™‚ I’m sure it will give many hope. πŸ™‚

      Many blessings to you both πŸ™‚

  • Susan white Posted May 25, 2018 6:32 am

    Help me release my karmic dept that is paid up. Ive been paying for someone elses bad doings.for so long i cant free myself.

    • Sally Bowers Posted June 10, 2018 8:41 pm

      I have a prayer in my current posting that should help πŸ™‚ But call in Jesus too. He’s very good at clearing away karmic debt.

  • Meera Posted August 11, 2018 1:32 pm

    Hi Sally
    I’m 30 year old woman who met a guy 6 years ago at my workplace. We both had an instant connection. We both started working fir the same company at the same time. He was already engaged wen I met him but that didn’t keep us apart from being together. We continued to be together for 2 years while he was engaged and den for 4 years after he got married. During the course of these 6 years I tried everything to let him get out of my life. We broke up 100 times but then got back together again.
    He used to tell me he was undergoing a divorce with his wife and I shud wait for him to get divorced so that we both can get married but then I discovered that everything was a lie and he was never getting separated from his wife. During this course of time I even found out that her wife gave birth to his child. I was devastated to find all this.
    After that I broke all communication with him.
    But still I’m not able to forget him completely. I can still feel his energies around me. I still think of him.
    I know that the relation that I had with him was worse than hell. And I’m happy to discover that we are not meant to be together.
    But I’m not able to let his thoughts leave me.
    Kindly guide me.

    • Sally Bowers Posted February 17, 2019 4:01 am

      Hi Meera, Im sorry for the long delay in responding. I hope you are well. Letting go takes time. Just know that when you take care of you, healing begins. You will always feel the connection, but you can block it. It’s as simple as imaging a bubble of bright light filling you and surrounding you creating the bubble, and then imagine that the bubble is mirrored. This way he can only see himself and not sent his energy your way to pull you back in. It’s not easy. I still have encounters with mine but have learned that it’s up to me to keep myself happy without him. He has to heal. And the more I heal, the more the relationship does. We may never be together in this life but I know that Im doing all I can to grow, heal, and bring my vibration as high as possible. This alone helps to remove the pain.

      It can take years if you hold on. Take care of you! You matter. You are important.

      So many blessings to you,

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